Charlie Rose: Are you where you thought you would be? Are you further than you thought you would be? Have you had the opportunity to show how good you are? [x]
We can now add “Running from a Bomb While Brown,” or “Injured While Saudi” to the list of racist categories of crime that exist in the U.S.
I figured it was something like this. No rules + staying in the house.
Will’s expressions though—proud papa!
I hate this stupid argument I love my mother, and I would never wish an unwanted pregnancy on her. If my mother was forced to go through with a pregnancy that she didn’t want, just so I was born, that would be awful. That would mean that I was a punishment. That would mean that my mother suffered…
This, up there.
I’ve had many problems, amongst them I have also felt guilty for being born because there were times I thought I ruined what was considered a glorious future for my parents. What they got instead was me.
School biology lessons can be fun and disgusting as well. What I learned in my biology lessons at school in the beginning of my teenage years was that it was possible for women not to have children and that there are many reasons why people make choices the way they do.
My parents were young when I was born, in the age where college and parties are considered more important. For years I felt bad and accused myself of ruining my parents lives, because I thought they had to have me when instead they could have gone ahead to achieve what they had wanted and planned. Who knows what would have been if I were not born? I tormented myself for years, shed endless tears and had suicidal thoughts, because after learning how young they had been, how they had married because of me, I thought they were forced to become parents.
I am lucky and I love my parents for who they are, what they have done for me and my mother is the best in the world. However, I never ever want any other person to feel like this. I thought that my parents were forced to have me, while they accepted me as their future child and had me and loved me and gave me everything in the world. What about those kids and teenagers and adults whose parents really never wanted them and who know that? Living with that knowledge is horrible, it can leave you unimaginable and unseen scars and while there are plenty of people who simply choose not to think about it, there are also plenty of those who blame themselves.
My incredible mother made a decision that effectively changed her life and she is very happy. She never considered adoption or termination, the moment she knew she was pregnant, she wanted to have me.
But not all women are like that. People see adoption as a way out, “if you don’t want your child, someone else will”. How many kids are there in this world, in orphanages and in abusive foster homes, because nobody wants them? The biggest number of adopted children are babies, infants who will have no recollection of their parentage, names, addresses etc, they are, in effect, like white sheets of paper, ready to be written on - new history, new name, new parentage.
I respect people and their choices. I respect someone’s religion and someone else’s atheism. I respect the Jehova Witnesses who refuse of blood transfers, because it is against their faith. I respect Catholics, who are against abortions, because it is against their faith. However, just as I respect your values as a person, my values as a person should be respected too. Adoption is an option, just because it exists does not mean YOU have to use it, but just because it exists, does not also mean YOU have to ban abortion for everyone.
^^ beautiful
I rang the literary editors of a few ‘respected’ papers and asked them how much space they were giving to women writers in their ‘review’ sections. Perfectly predictable response. They all said the allocation was fair. One said it was equal, and one prominent editor went so far as to say women are dominating the reviews!
… What happened when I asked who was doing the talking in mixed sex conversations? Well, it was the women of course. And then when you get to measure it you find that women get to talk about 10-20% of the time in conversations with men. A woman who talks about a third of the time is seen to be dominating the talk.
And what happened when I asked teachers who got their attention in class? Well, it was all equal, wasn’t it? No preferences there. And you measure it and find that girls get about 10-20% of the teacher’s attention. Any more, and the boys think it unfair - and go into revolt.
So what do you think I found with the reviews?
I would have predicted about 10-20% of the space went to women’s books. Well, it is less than 6% of the column inches. And the reasonable editor who thinks that women are getting more than their share is one of the worst offenders. Poor boys! It really tells you something when they think only 94% of the review section is not enough, doesn’t it? When 6% for women is too much you get some idea how much men think they are entitled to - as a fair deal.
He is trying to explain that not getting laid (incel means involuntary celibate) is a violation of his civil rights and a grossly overlooked injustice. He is completely serious. This is his blog.
what a fucking creepy fucker
Oh my fucking GOD. What an entitled little douche.
“BEING WITHOUT A RELATIONSHIP AND SEX AGAINST YOUR WILL FOR OVER 6 MONTHS” cry me a river
what is that civil rights analogy even
Dear guys who don’t understand why women are often cagey around you:
These men walk among you and are indistinguishable from you until it’s too late.
From his About Me: “I want to share the idea that governments have to help people get partners.”
Suddenly, in a totally unrelated coincident, I have a brilliant and terrifying idea for a new dystopian fiction setting.
OH MY GOD. I cannot with Nice Guys™ like this. FUCK.
I’ll try to contain my rage with a nice numbered list of why he is SO fucking wrong. Ahem.
- Women are often single too, even when they don’t want to be. Nobody is entitled to a relationship with anyone. Period.
- Comparing women to restaurants is disgusting and objectifying. Stop.
- Comparing the civil rights movement to you not getting laid is also disgusting. Stop that too.
- You may not like being single, but that is not, in any way shape or form, oppression.
- You are probably single “against your will” because you view women as restaurants that have an obligation to service you.
- If we really wanted to help people who felt depressed because they were single, a big step would be teaching them that they don’t need a relationship to be validated and happy, NOT trying to match people up with tax money (honestly, I read it twice, and I still don’t know exactly what it is that you’re proposing).
- You clearly have a warped view of women, the civil rights movement, and oppression and you are awful. STAHP.
As was mentioned before, things like this are a big reason women have trouble trusting men. The predators, the Nice Guys™, the creeps, the guys who feel entitled to women, they’re all out there, masquerading as decent dudes.
reblogging because the “easily imaginable state of being without a relationship and sex against your will for over 6 months” is not oppression, and it’s really telling that there are dudes out there who assume this is oppression for them and other dudes (clearly women, non-binary folk, and gay men are not allowed to have this issue), and further more, oppression on a level akin to that of civil rights, apparently.
Oooooh, yes I like this. Irish people in general are pretty terrible at admitting our racism.
(via mssswitch)